Why I Write
By the time I picked up running fifteen years ago, I already had a special relationship with words and language. In college, one of my majors was French and Iād also gotten a graduate degree in translation...Read More →
It Was NOT a Shotgun Wedding
Cesar and I were married just nine months after we met. It was not a shotgun wedding, as we reckon some assumed. We were madly in love. But we didnāt marry for love only. We married because any real...Read More →
Motherhood Changes Everything and No One Notices
Some experiences are a shock to the system, a kick in the butt. My butt was kicked hard, unexpectedly, and decisively on Wednesday, January 13, 1994, at 5:38 pm. That's the date and time I gave birth ...Read More →
Breastfeeding: My First Parenting Challenge
Pre-pregnancy, I was blessed with lovely breasts the firmness of ripe avocados. A few days after Diego was born, they were more like watermelons, so huge a person standing behind me could see a significant...Read More →
Aging: Age is Not Just a Number
Being older is the same as being younger in many respects. Thatās what I think anyway. Iāll be 53 this month and my needs and wants are not much different than they were at 35. I continue to want love,...Read More →
Flight Switch: A Scary Story With An Unexpected Ending
Once in a while things work out for you and you know a higher power had a hand in it. This happens to me whenever I fly.Ā Sometimes itās super obvious, like the time I switched to an earlier flight from...Read More →
Making Sense of an Autism Diagnosis
Remember when autism used to be the rarest of conditions? When it would conjure up either Rain Man or the one autistic person youād ever met in your life? For me, it was the boy at the beach who walked...Read More →
26 Lessons About Love, Sex, Parenting and Money From 30 Years of Marriage
Thirty years of marriage. How is it even possible? āIt really has felt like two minutesāāāunderwater,ā an acquaintance joked the other day about his similarly long marriage. Seeing as Iām very slow when...Read More →
Jealousy: I Was Decidedly NOT Jealous
It all started 21 years ago when we immigrated to the United States and joined our local YMCA, where I enrolled in yoga classes with an instructor I shall name Kate. I would come home raving about them...Read More →
Time for a Marriage Break?
Do you ever wish you could mute your spouse when heās (my spouse is a āheā) telling the same ājokeā he has told 137 times and which youāve made abundantly clear is not funny AT ALL?Ā Have you fantasized...Read More →