Race and Racism: Reflections from a “White” Hispanic Immigrant

Race and Racism
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The meaning of race and the baggage of racism vary a great deal from country to country. In the US, the weight of racism is definitely greater than it was (and hopefully still is) in Venezuela, my country of birth.

In Venezuela, race is not an issue that’s at the forefront of any national conversation. This is not to say Venezuelans aren’t at all racist though. People make racist jokes and comments, and average skin color gets perceptibly lighter the richer the group.

Blonde and blue-eyed is certainly more exotic, rare and desirable. Even if you have the features of a Halloween witch, as long as you’re blonde, you’ll be seen as beautiful. 

My sisters and I used to joke that, at our Catholic school, the fairest-skinned girls were always the ones to crown the Virgin Mary on Coronation Day.

Yes, though it manifests differently than here, racism is alive and well in Venezuela. But it’s more subtle and less institutionalized than in the US.

Technically, almost half of Venezuela’s population is “white” and the other half “mixed”, with black and indigenous Venezuelans making up less than 4% and 3% of the population, respectively. A common terminology used for black people is “person of color” (“persona de color”), and, for the most part, only people who look to be 100% of black African descent are deemed de color.

Racism in Venezuela is reserved mostly toward blacks. Awful as our racism toward black people is, I will say that it is not nearly as dangerous as it is in the US, not even close.

Venezuelans of all races fear for their lives and bodies for many reasons. Race is not one of them.

What does it even mean to be a person of color?

Though I’ve lived in the US for 25 years, I’m still fascinated by how race, skin color and identity can be viewed so differently from one country to another.

I’ve always considered myself white, knowing that, on my mom’s side of the family, there probably was some indigenous or African ancestry (as recently confirmed through genetic testing). Such is the case in most families of predominantly Spanish ancestry who’ve lived in Venezuela for many generations.

Americans see me as white too. Because of my accent, though, I’m often asked where I’m from. Once in a while, someone will say “Oh, you don’t look Venezuelan.” Hmm, I think, “What does he think Venezuelans look like?” Not white, I guess.

While I get the you-don’t-look-Venezuelan comment occasionally, my sister Rosanna, who’s blond and blue-eyed, tells me that she hears it ALL the time. 

Sometimes, people actually hear “Minnesota” when we say “Venezuela”. Despite my sister’s accent, which is thicker than mine, her “Venezuela” more often sounds like “Minnesota” to people. I guess her looks are more characteristic of Minnesota, where, I assume, lots of people are blonde?

I have a relative I’ll call Sergio who arrived in the United States when he was 4 years old. A few years ago, I heard him say he identified as a person of color. Given my background, this caught me by surprise. He certainly doesn’t look de color. His skin’s so white it doesn’t even tan. Because Sergio and I grew up in different environments, we certainly view race differently.

Another relative (I’ll call this one Gloria) once said someone had told her “You’re lucky you don’t look Hispanic.”

The comment disturbed me. At first, I found it upsetting that someone would say that. Later, though, I recognized the statement as true — which is sadder and more disturbing still. Gloria’s skin color and look make it possible for her to benefit from White Hispanic privilege at the expense of those who “look” Hispanic (regardless of race). Such is the case for all my family members.

I know the police and people in the street would react differently to my adult autistic son were he a big black man. They just would. Diego has a real hard time with personal space and his behavior is quite atypical sometimes. But, in addition to being autistic, Diego’s a slender short white man, which, in many minds, translates into “not threatening”. 

I know the black mother of a big black man with behaviors just like my son’s would have good reason for fear. Coming from her son, such behaviors would translate into “threatening”.

A recent event also reminded me of the fact that, even amongst immigrants of similar origin, race confers immense privilege. A few weeks ago, my friend Ruby (not her real name), who was quarantining at our home, went out for a walk. She was walking past a house, contemplating the seven beautiful trees with white blossoms that lined the property, when a man walked out of the house and approached her.

He asked Ruby, in a rude tone of voice, where she lived and said she was not allowed to walk on that street because it was part of a private association.

There are many streets in my town that have “Private Association” signage. I’ve run through many such streets over the past twenty years and I’ve never had a problem. If anyone interacts with me, it’s to kindly say or wave hello.

Though Ruby and I are both Hispanic, people are more likely to assume that I’m a contributing member of society and to make me feel welcome. Ruby has this experience less often than I do. It’s no stretch to conclude that it has something to do with our physical appearance. I’m Hispanic, and my “look” is that of a white female of European descent. Ruby’s Hispanic, and her “look” is that of a female of native Central American descent.

Hispanic, mind you, is not technically about race. It’s about identifying as a person of Latin American or Spanish heritage. People of all races and looks can be Hispanic, or for that matter, American.

Our biases, prejudices and perception on race, ethnicity, ancestry, heritage are just incredibly messed up.

What happens when we transfer our specific race structure and racism to the US?

We crazy humans have created such a truly twisted concept of race that even “black” people and “people of color” can have difficulty empathizing with others of their same race.

I’ve come to this conclusion as I try to make sense of the differences between the US and Venezuela when it comes to how race dynamics and racism are structured in each country.

Yes, Venezuela’s “structure” makes for a society where racism is not a central issue.

Transfer Venezuela’s structure to the US, however, and you get very distorted thinking, aspects of which I still struggle to understand and explain.

For instance, many Venezuelan immigrants find it confusing to have to pick a race when they fill out forms. As far as I can remember, we’re never asked to provide this information on any form in Venezuela. Is this one reason, however insignificant, we think about race less?

The thing is, the lines between white and mixed, which together make up about 93% of Venezuela’s population, are incredibly blurry. You can’t tell who would consider themselves white or mixed, and the general attitude is “Who the f*&k even cares?”

I’ve been living in the US long enough to find it hilarious and troubling when a Venezuelan who thinks of himself as white may be viewed as a person of color in the US, while one who thinks of herself as mixed may be black or a person of color.

Heck, a dark-skinned Venezuelan who thinks of herself as white may even be black in the US! I’ve known one such person.

I’m no expert in race studies, but there are obviously historical, institutional and social components to racism, race and racial terminology. I recently read Trevor Noah’s memoir Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood. In South Africa, I learned, a “coloured” person is one of mixed white and black (or Asian) ancestry.

Doesn’t all of this also show how race structures are so made up? Get on a plane and travel to a different country and your race may change.

If you ever travel to Venezuela, know that, while you’re there, you may temporarily cease to be a person of color. Also, if you don’t look like a member of the original cast of Baywatch, don’t be surprised if someone says you don’t look American.

It turns out racist structures play out differently in different societies, which often makes it difficult for people to relate across nations when it comes to racism. You even have people who can’t see why the group they would be considered part of in the US is so dissatisfied. 

It’s astounding the extent to which how we’re socialized skews how we see and judge ourselves and others.

Why does this matter?

It’s impossible to see things from another’s perspective and to empathize when you don’t even realize (or admit to yourself?) that there is a different structure and experience.

No, humility and open-mindedness don’t come naturally to us adult humans. This, to my mind, is the greatest obstacle to ameliorating all of humanity’s biggest issues, racism included.

The problem is that cynicism, hubris and arrogance become cemented in too many minds as we’re “socialized” and accumulate experiences. They block our ability to even consider others’ views and realities.

I liked how Venezuelan humorist Joanna Hausmann Jatar put it in a tweet

“Yo nunca he visto el racismo!” Solo porque TU no has visto algo no significa que NO existe. Yo jamas en la vida he visto un ornitorrinco pero no me paso por la vida gritando “NO SE, ESO DE LOS ORNITORRINCOS NO ME LO CREO”

In English:

“I’ve never seen any racism!” Just because you haven’t seen something doesn’t mean it does NOT exist. I’ve never seen a platypus in my life but I don’t go around screaming. “I DON’T KNOW BUT ALL THAT TALK ABOUT PLATYPUS, I’M NOT BUYING IT.”

Our own suffering affects our ability to empathize too. “Hell, what I (my country, my people, my family) is going through is just as bad, and I’m not complaining; nobody’s protesting over it,” we may think. 

I submit, however, that we do have the capacity to largely understand how someone feels, even if we haven’t personally experienced what they’re going through. 

I’m not saying we can fully understand it. Heck, not even an identical twin can know exactly how his twin feels in a given situation. But to a greater extent than we give ourselves credit for, we can put ourselves in other people’s shoes.

I see this capacity all the time in my preschool students.

Our interest in fiction and great novels are in large measure possible because we can empathize with others and their experiences, however foreign to us they may be.

I know plenty of people who aren’t parents who felt my pain, so to speak, when my son was hospitalized with a serious brain injury. I know plenty of rich folks who empathize profoundly with people who live in poverty, as well as poor folks who understand rich people may also confront real pain and suffering.

Similarly, we have the ability to relate to the pain of the victims of racism, which is the first step in getting us to do something about it.

First, though, we must be able to open our minds to their truth and remember this great lesson from writer, poet and visual artist Khalil Gibran (in The Prophet):

Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”

Or, as newspaper editor William Allen White advised Northwestern University’s graduating class of 1936:

Don’t build your logic upon a purely selfish structure… Such thinking rejects the possibility that there is truth and that there may be reason in the contention of another class of society.

Peace and best wishes to all.

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30 Days of Seneca, the Perfect Quarantine Companion

30 quotes to ponder and help you get through this and other challenges

30 days of Seneca image2,000+ year-old Roman philosopher by the name of Lucius Annaeus Seneca has been one of my closest companions during this time of quarantine

The reason for this is that, thirty days ago, I took up a challenge to write a short reflection on a quote from Seneca the Younger’s book “Letters from a Stoic” for 30 consecutive days.

This has been quite an exercise in constancy! But one couldn’t ask for a better teacher during these extraordinary times than Seneca. Loss, death, distance and misfortune, though always around us, have been magnified by the pandemic. It just so happens that these are some of Seneca’s topics of choice. 

It’s mind boggling to think that Seneca’s words seem to have been written last month and not over 2,000 years ago.

How did I come across Seneca and Stoicism?

Cesar, my husband, is an avid listener of the Tim Ferriss podcast. Because Tim Ferriss talks about Stoicism a lot, Cesar became interested in it and brought home the books Meditations (by Marcus Aurelius), Letters from a Stoic (by Seneca the Younger), and How to Be a Stoic (by Massimo Pigliucci).

These books (which I highly recommend) and content from a few websites constitute all my reading on Stoic philosophy.

Of the two ancient Stoic writers, Marcus Aurelius and Seneca, Seneca is far more relatable and quotable. You can open his Letters to any page and I guarantee you’ll find at least three quotable passages or sentences. 

For my challenge, I first used the quotes I’d included in a “Favorite Quotes” document I keep. After running out of quotes by day 14 or so, I’d just open Letters from a Stoic on a random page and read until I found something I’d like to dive deeper into. It didn’t take long at all.

What’s special about my reflections when you can find hundreds of articles online on Seneca and Stoic philosophy?

All I can say about my take is that it’s coming from from a 50-year-old woman whose favorite color is yellow, who was born and raised in Venezuela, became a US citizen in 2008 and works as a preschool special education teacher. 

Because every person’s story is in some way unique, everyone’s take would be different in some way too.

Here, then, dear reader, are the quotes and themes I covered over the past thirty days, with links to each reflection. The list is alphabetized by theme.

I hope these quotes and reflections help you lead a happier and better life, or at least give you some insights into your deepest self.


“The outcome of violent anger is a mental raving, and therefore anger is to be avoided not for the sake of moderation but for the sake of sanity.”

“It is borne of love as well as hate, and is as liable to arise in the course of sport or jesting as in affairs of a serious kind.”

Awareness of Life and Death

“This day’s my last or maybe it isn’t, but it’s not so far away from it.”

“Every life without exception is a short one.”

“Death ought to be right there before the eyes of a young man just as much as an old one — the order in which we each receive our summons is not determined by our precedence in the register… no one is so very old that it would be quite unnatural for him to hope for one more day.”

Bad Company

“So long as you associate with a person who’s mean and grasping you will remain a money-minded individual yourself. So long as you keep arrogant company, just so long will conceit stick to you. Cruelty you’ll never say goodbye to while you share the same roof with a torturer. If you wish to be stripped of your vices you must get right away from the examples others set of them.”

Bad Vs Many

“You should neither become like the bad because they are many, nor be an enemy of the many because they are unlike you.”

On Choice

“There is a world of difference between, on the one hand, choosing not to do what is wrong and, on the other, not knowing how to do it in the first place.”

Common Property

“Whatever is true is my property. And I shall persist in inflicting Epicurus on you, in order to bring it home to the people who take an oath of allegiance to someone and never afterwards consider what is being said but only who said it, that the things of greatest merit are common property.”

Dangers Vs Fears

“Our fears are always more numerous than our dangers.”


“You will die not because you are sick but because you are alive. That end still awaits you when you have been cured.”


“To be feared is to fear: no one has been able to strike terror into others and at the same time enjoy peace of mind himself.”


“After friendship is formed you must trust, but before that you must judge.”


“There is a sequence about the creative process, and a work of genius is a synthesis of its individual features from which nothing can be subtracted without disaster.”


“It is a great man that can treat his earthenware as if it was silver, and a man who treats his silver as if it was earthenware is no less great.”


“Words need to be sown like seeds. No matter how tiny a seed may be, when it lands in the right sort of ground it unfolds its strength and from being minute expands and grows to a massive size… Yes, precepts have the same features as seeds: they are of compact dimensions, and they produce impressive results — given, as I say, the right sort of mind, to grasp at and assimilate them.”


“A man who follows someone else not only does not find anything, he is not even looking… Yes indeed, I shall use the old road, but if I find a shorter and easier one I shall open it up. The men who pioneered the old routes are leaders, not our masters.”


“As it is with a play, so it is with life — what matters is not how long the acting lasts, but how good it is.”


“The growth of things is a tardy process and their undoing is a rapid matter.”

The Mind

“The more the mind takes in the more it expands.”


“You have to persevere and fortify your pertinacity until the will to do good becomes a disposition to good.”


“It is not the man who has too little who is poor, but the man who hankers for more.”


“Praise in him what can neither be given nor snatched away.”


“To expect punishment is to suffer it; and to earn it is to expect it. Where there is a bad conscience, some circumstance or other may provide one with impunity, but never with freedom from anxiety.”

Right and Wrong

“How much better to pursue a straight course and eventually reach that destination where the things that are pleasant and the things that are honourable finally become, for you, the same.”

Role Models

There is a need, in my view, for someone as a standard against which our characters can measure themselves. Without a ruler to do it against you won’t make the crooked straight.

Stoic Attitude

“Whatever can happen at any moment can happen today.”

“Just as I know that anything is capable of happening so also do I know that it’s not bound to happen. So I look for the best and am prepared for the opposite.”


“The active man should be able to take things easily, while the man who is inclined towards repose should be capable of action.”


“No one confines his unhappiness to the present.”


“Vices are manifold, take countless different forms and are incapable of classification. Devotion to what is right is simple, devotion to what is wrong is complex and admits of infinite variations.”


“If we were born in a state of moral enlightenment, wisdom would have been deprived of the best thing about her — that she isn’t one of the things which fortune either gives us or doesn’t. As things are, there is about wisdom a nobility and magnificence in the fact that she doesn’t fall to a person’s lot, that each man owes her to his own efforts.”

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