Diego, my 26-year old son with autism and intellectual disability, loves the word āsimilarā.
OnĀ one of our runsĀ the other day, he began to recite this litany of similarities between movies:
āHolesĀ is similar toĀ Indiana Jonesā, āTalladega NightsĀ is similar toĀ Elfā,Ā ā āSlum Dog MillionaireĀ is similar toĀ Jungle Book,ā āAquamanĀ is similar toĀ The Little Mermaid, ā “Alice in Wonderland is like 13 going on 30…”
He wouldāve gone on indefinitely had I not interrupted him to ask, āHowās movie X similar to movie Y?ā
HolesĀ andĀ Indiana JonesĀ are similar because āthey both digā.Ā Talladega NightsĀ andĀ ElfĀ are both comedies.Ā Slum Dog MillionaireĀ andĀ Jungle BookĀ are both in India.Ā AquamanĀ andĀ The Little MermaidĀ are both in the Atlantic.
And, my favorite, Alice in Wonderland and 13 going on 30 are both dreams.
Diegoās psychiatrist calls Diegoās recitations āflights of ideasā. I call it āassociative thinkingā. The following are a few more examples of how it works:
A few months ago, as I was paying for repairs on my car, Diego saw a stuffed duck toy on a counter. He took his cell phone out of his pocket and said:
āIām gonna take a picture of the duck. I love it. Iām gonna take a picture of the duck because I eat duck from Costco. I like Donald Duck. I like Daffy Duck from the Looney Tunes. I saw Donald Duck in Disney.ā
Hereās the silly little duck that triggered the associations:
Images are often instant sources of associations, and Diego always takes pictures of them.
We were in the lobby of an apartment building the other day and Diego noticed a big coffee table book with an image of a black feline on it. As expected, he whipped out his cell and took a photo as he voiced his thoughts out loud:
āIām taking a picture of the panther. The Black Panther from Africa. Chadwick Boseman was the Black Panther. Chadwick Boseman passed away. He was in 42. He was African American like Denzel Washinton from American Gangsterā
On yet another run, Diego and I came upon a young woman and her dog. Diego stopped and looked at her straight in the eye and said, āCane in Italian.ā What in the world does he mean? I wondered. Usually, I can tell what he’s referring to.
Suspecting the girl might feel uncomfortable about a random guy on a run abruptly stopping, staring at her, and uttering, āCane in Italianā, I interjected, āThis is my son Diego. Whatās your dogās name?ā
I neednāt have worried. Like almost everyone weāve ever encountered, the girl sensed Diegoās goodness.
After a few exchanges, Diego stated, āYou were in Italian class.ā
āOh, yeah, I remember,ā she said (though Iām not so sure she actually did).
Turns out she and Diego had been in the same Italian class in high school a decade ago. Diego had recognized her right away. Seeing her dog, the sentence āCane in Italianā just came out of his mouth.
āCaneā is Italian for ādogā. Should’ve been obvious, don’t you think?
And hereās one more example: 26 minutes into a hike in Camden, Maine, Diego noticed an ant on the trail and said: āLook. An ant from Bugās Life. Itās Flick.ā
Such animal/ movie character associations happen all the time when weāre out and about. A rabbit is instantly Thumper (DisneyāsĀ Bambi) or Lucky Jack (DisneyāsĀ Home on the Range), a deer is either Bambi or Faline (both fromĀ Bambi), and a seagull is Orville (DisneyāsĀ The Rescuers Down Under).
In Diego’s brain, a visual stimulus often begets an association which begets a second association which begets a third association, and so on. It all happens quickly and the amazing thing is he can put it into words as it’s happening.
I usually know what Diegoās talking about when the stimulus is visual, even if I may not understand the associationās source. The original stimulus need not be visual, however. It can be a thought or an event.
When it comes to thoughts, the anxious kind renders Diegoās āassociative thinkingā most evident.
I know an anxious thought is tormenting him when he begins this recitation associating various anxious memories:
āAirplanes get grounded due to bad weather. I’m already 26. Itās a New Year. Letās pray: Our Fatherā¦.ā
āAirplanes get grounded due to bad weatherā refers to the time our flight to visit my sister was canceled due to, well, bad weather. āIām already 26ā and āItās a New Yearā are things Iāve said to him to try to get him to calm down. Praying is what Abuela and many others do to feel happy.
As to events, hereās a recent example of āassociative thinkingā at work. Some weeks ago, Diegoās friend Owen called with the sad news that the family dog, Gus, had passed. After saying he was sorry for the loss, Diego reminded Owen that heād be seeing him soon, and suggested: āWeāll watch CocoĀ andĀ All Dogs Go to Heaven.ā
Get it? The death event elicitedĀ Coco,Ā whileĀ theĀ death-of-a-dog event triggeredĀ All Dogs Go to Heaven. Both movies prominently feature dogs, death and the afterlife.
Diego’s often hard to understand because his speech can be slurred and rushed and because what he says sometimes doesn’t seem to make sense. But if you dig deeper, you’ll find there sure is meaning behind everything Diego says.